Benefits of a Cuckolding Relationship

A cuckold relationship is one where the husband allows his wife to have sex with other men and the husband only desires to have sex with his wife.  Yesterday CNN wrote an article that cuckolding can be very positive for a couple who have great communication and a great relationship already.

For my wife and I, we enjoyed sex together, though we knew my penis was too small for her as she could not feel me inside.  She was ok with this for 10 years.  Then we had the opportunity for her to experience another very well endowed man.  She learned many new things including she had the ability to have lots of multiple orgasms with a larger penis.

So what are the benefits for me, the husband?   Well I found watching her with the other male was so hot and erotic that it was the greatest turn-on.  This was not like just being a voyeur and watching a live porno.  I was being a voyeur and watching my wife’s facial expressions and body language, and listening to how vocal she was.  To see and watch her in the throws of ecstasy was the most amazing thing.

One might think, didn’t it bother you that she enjoyed his penis but not yours?  Of course not.  The reason is, it wasn’t about me and my abilities.  She can make me orgasm over and over.  Finally I found I was able to provide her with many mind blowing orgasms.  We just happen to use a Surrogate Dick, to do it.

I love her very much and this is something I can offer her.  That provides me a great benefit.  Also, after they are done, her and I are able to have great sex without the added pressure of me trying to make her orgasm vaginally.

For her benefits, she gets to experience sexual freedom.  She can enjoy mild-blowing sex with other men and know I will always be there for her.   The other men find her attractive and sexy and tell her so often.  What is more sexy for a woman than having other men desire her and telling her how much they desire her.  She can have sex with whomever and whenever the opportunity presents itself and she knows I support her 100% with that.

For us as a couple.  In order to even talk about cuckolding, we had to have good communication.  In the last 12 to 15 years we have been living this lifestyle, our communication really opened up.  We have great communication and trust in our relationship.  Someone close to us is going through tough times for her marriage and she said to me.  She just wished they had better communication.  For us, cuckolding increased our communication 1000%.

If may not be for everyone, but it has worked well for our 25 year marriage.  And for those people close to us that are aware of this, they have all said, they wish they could have the same relationship.  Its all a about love, trust, and communication.

Most Comfortable Panties

I told “C” one time, I wish they would make underwear out of the pantyhose material.  Super soft and stretchy.  Low and behold she found a lady on Etsy who hand makes them.  She has bikini and g-string styles.  They are super comfortable.  They hold the package very well, no matter how small.  They also are super stretchy to handle an erection.  These are definitely a must try.  Also “C” says they make my penis look larger for some reason.   lol.  Thank you anyway honey!  😉

I added a link to her Etsy page showing all the panties she makes.

Small Penis Teasing?

So why would a guy with a tiny penis love to be teased about how small and tiny it is?

I think its totally accepting that my penis is tiny and I’ll be the first to say so, to even joke about.  Joking and laughing is great for the soul.  I absolutely love when “C” makes “small” jokes about my penis, teases me about it.  Its just great fun to make sure we are both alive sexually I guess.

Even my sister who has seen the blog, cracked a few jokes about my size once she realized I was such a good sport about it.  Everyone who knows me, knows I don’t take life to serious and I’m always cracking jokes.  Especially about myself.

We have a couple who are our best friends.  They have seen how small I am.  Once night we were leaving a bar and the husband, he ran over and just slapped me on the ass as a joke.  I laughed and said, “well at least you didn’t grab my dick”.  His wife responded, “He would have to find it first” and we all laughed.  I thought that was awesome!

Also I told our friend that I don’t mind her mentioning my tiny penis to other people. I told her I was quite ok with it, as Im ok with the whole world knowing.  So one night she showed another couple one of the pics above, to show them how tiny I was.  The next day she told us she felt bad for doing that.  We both told her, we didn’t mind at all.  I thought that was awesome!  I told her she can show the pic to whomever she wants.  Hell, tell them my exact size. 3.8 inches erect.  I stopped rounding up.  😉  I really hope she does show the pic more often.  I actually look forward to the next time she tells us she showed the pic again!  Its not a big deal at all.  (sorry, had to throw that in).  Hell, next party bring it up, I’ll laugh and say, “hell yeah, I’m hung like a church mouse!”  Why be ashamed of it, just embrace it.  I tried to let her know, its not being mean to me.  For me its freedom, not being ashamed about it, embracing it.

Basically, our best friends know that I’m ok with the whole world knowing how tiny I am, and by them joking about it, lets me know they are not uncomfortable  about the topic with me or “C”.  I think they are awesome people for accepting me having a tiny penis, and us doing the Surrogate Dick thing.  Instead of feeling weird around us, they can crack jokes or even just talk about my size and Surrogate Dicks.  Those are what you call true friends forever.

You Let Your Wife Have Sex With Other Men?

 

“The Surrogate Dick”

We had been married about 10 years and I knew “C” gave all to me sexually and I realized I could not give all she needed.  Sure we used toys, and I could use my fingers and tongue…..but she had not been able to experience a great orgasm via intercourse.  Once while visiting a friend of hers in Las Vegas, she mentioned to “C” that she had a male friend who gave mind blowing orgasms.  I decided to tell her, hey, lets try and see if he can give you one.  Then maybe you will know how they feel and we can then work towards you having more.

Well, she smiled and thanked me in some very great ways.  🙂 . I sat and watched her with the other guy and she had more orgasms than we could both count.  And she learned they were so intense, that she squirts.   Boy did that kick start a higher sex drive for “C”.  Luckily “C” was finally honest with me that my penis was too small to satisfy her, but she said this in a nice way.  She reassured me that it was ok, we can just keep trying new things.  At this point I told her maybe if we just bring in another guy for her to be able to orgasm.  Basically it would be a living dildo for her.  She agreed.

We found she can easily have multiple orgasms and very intense with the other men, almost all the time.  So we found a long term friends with benefits for her and decided to call him the “Surrogate Dick”, which means he is nothing more than a living dildo to provide her orgasms.  So for the last 15 years we have typically had various long term Surrogate Dick’s for her to enjoy.

So what do I get out of this?  The more orgasms she has with the Surrogate Dick the higher her sex drive stays, and the more sex and yes, blowjobs I get.  Win-Win situation for both of us.  And yes, I love to watch her with the Surrogate Dick or SD.  Would she let me sleep with other women?  Sure, but I choose not to, as she can provide me many orgasms.

So how does she meet the SD’s?  We have found them through a couple swinger sites. She can hook up with whoever and whenever she desires.  As long as either I get to watch or she tells me all about it afterwards.  Only once has it been a spur of the moment thing so far.  We do have a current long term SD who happened to be a friend of ours.  We met him via a swinger site only to learn during our chatting, that we actually knew each other.

I love “C” a lot, and she satisfies me sexually, more than I could ask for.   So I feel grateful to be able to allow her to be satisfied sexually which for her, requires a large penis.

This arrangement may not be for everyone.  We don’t judge others, so we don’t care if others thing this is not right.  It works for us.

Below are some comparison pics of “C” and me, and then her with an SD.

Everyone is asking where “C” got her robe for the shaving post

We got tons of emails asking where “C” got her robe she is wearing in the previous post on shaving.  She purchased it from Adore Me online.  www.adoreme.com

She has graciously offered to let me post a better photo of the robe, which I think most of us men will love and the wives can see what it looks like on a non-model on their website.

 

Shaving Down Under: Will it appear larger?

A lot of articles say that shaving your pubic hair will help make your small penis appear larger.  Well, since I usually stay shaven, I let the hair grow out a bit to see.  Well, since my penis flacid is only about 1/2 inch, you definately could not see it.  When erect I am 3.8 inches so the hair tends to cover about half.

When shaven you can now see all of my penis, so I guess it would look larger than if I had hair.  Though lucky for me ,my penis is fairly tiny to begin with, so shaved, or not shaved, does not really make a difference.  For me it does not matter, though I think “C” likes both of us shaven.   Sorry, I did not mean to include “C’s” boobs but I can not crop the photos and them still look centered.

My Husband Is Mad I Bought A Penis Extension

 

I received the following message from a wife and reader of this blog.

“I purchased some new sex toys and the free item the company sent, was a penis extension,
that can be used over a vibrator or a mans penis, to make it thicker.  I put it on my new vibrator and loved it!  I have found with the added girth, I am having mind blowing orgasms.  Now the downside. I mentioned this to my husband and he thought it was great.  So I suggested we put it on his penis and try that also.  He went from excited, to having a bruised ego.  To make matters worse, his penis is too small to keep the extension on him.  I have told him his penis is perfect and does make me orgasm sometimes.  How can I get out of this fog I have created?”

Just let him know the vibrator feels wonderful by itself, but the added girth just increased the pleasure, but you are happy either way.   Next time you are both feeling frisky, tell him he does not have to try the extension again, but if he decided he wanted to, just wink at him and say something like, “I might just have to do a little oral on you as compensation”.  Sounds silly, but he might just think, “oh heck, I’ll do anything for that”.

Just reassure him his size works and that you are always willing to try new things he wants to try.  Within reason of course.

As you mentioned the penis extension its too large in circumference to stay on his penis, we also had the same issue. “C” mentioned trying some of the finger sleeves which can be an extension for the smaller penis.  Also, he could put on one of the finger sleeves or a couple rubber finger rings, then put the regular extension on.  That could pad the extra room and allow it to stay on.

Keep me informed how it goes and thanks for the question.

Self-Acceptance Leads To Confidence

 

By happenstance I crossed path’s with a female friend from my high school days, by researching sex self-help on various websites.   After I said hello we messaged back and forth and I spoke about this blog to her.   She thought my blog was a great idea as she has known a few men who also had small penis’s which would not have been a problem, except they let their small size affect their confidence in the bedroom.

She is a very open minded person sexually and believes whatever works for a couple to have a great sex life and great relationship, is the right thing.  She said, “For a man to be able to openly talk about his penis being very small, is the ultimate acceptance of this fact and leads to better communication with his partner.

Most all sex therapists say the key to a great marriage and sex life is communication. “C” and I were married years before really began to communicate.  As I stated in another post.  Once I was able to finally tell her I realized my penis was too small for her body, she saw that it did not bother me
and we really begin to communicate for the first time in many years.  Once she finally admitted that she too realized my penis was too small for her body,  we both realized we can talk about anything having to do with sex and/or our relationship.

Basically for me its the old saying, “Why worry about what you can not change”.  I really admire “C” for finally being able to admit to me that my penis could not meet her sexual needs which was very difficult for her to say.  She did tell me she still loved me and we can just work around it just like any other issues couples face.

This was so wonderful for me.  Now I completely accepted the fact that my penis was very small but that I am ok with that.  And she completely accepted the fact that my penis was too small to meet her sexual needs, but she was ok with this also.  Wow, what a great wife I have!

“C” explained it this way:
“It’s the reassurance for me that even though I can not sexually meet her needs due to my very small size, she stays with me for the emotional bond and our love together.”

Wow, this made me realize, she is giving up a lot for me, which is true love.  So I began to think proactively and logically as to what I can do for her.

Aren’t You Afraid Your Friends or Family Will See This Blog?

The Answer: Not at all!

Why? A long time ago, I made the decision to embrace having a very small penis, and not have any anxiety or be insecure. Actually being open about my size and not embarrassed by it, is a great relief.

We have friends who know I’m small who I will even joke with about my size. Sometimes joking about it with them, helps reinforce that I am not in the least bit bothered by it. Some of them have even read this blog and think its awesome. They have learned that I do not need to hear, “oh its not small”, as I would prefer them to be honest and just admit, its small. I’m honest with myself that it’s small and I’m ok with that. My wife is honest that its small, and I actually appreciate the honesty.

Up until a few days ago, I was convinced I was 100% over all embarrassment. Then I sent a text accidentally to my sister mentioning something about my blog, though nothing about its content. She kept asking me about the blog and for the first time in a long time, I was completely embarrassed and thought no way did I want her knowing. My wife said, “I thought you were not embarrassed by your size and the blog, it seems you still are”. So I finally fessed up and said, “Its quite embarrassing”. She again said to just tell her what it was about, so I decided to just come clean and said it was a small penis support blog and provided her the link, while turning 10 shades of red.

As it turns out, she called me and immediately said, “You’re wrong, you’re not small!” I thanked her for trying to spare my feelings, but I told her my exact size and said I don’t have a complex or any hangup about my size. I know I’m very small and I am completely ok with it. I explained that the purpose of this blog was not to so much help those who fear they are too small, but to help those who realize they are small and are ok with it also. It’s also to help the wives with questions they might have if they are not sure how to ask their husband.

I explained to her how many years ago, I decided to not be embarrassed about having a very small penis. I said I did not need to hear “your not small”. Furthermore I explained how there can be things you have to deal with being small, like finding condoms that fit, sex positions that work for both husband and wife, etc, and I hoped to help others, so they did not have to reinvent the wheel with finding information.

My sister was completely supportive of what I was doing with the site and was relieved I’m really ok with being small. She just said, “I love you and I’m glad we are able to talk about this and if we can talk about your small penis, we can pretty much talk about anything which is awesome!” She joked, “When you said you had a very small penis, I was just trying to call to say you weren’t small but you had to go and convince me”. Haha, just telling the truth. She said, “So what that your really small, there are far worse things you could have in life”. Very true.

This conversion started out embarrassing, but turned into one of the best conversations. I learned she was actually glad I could confide in her, no matter what the topic is, and I in turn, was also quite grateful, that we could openly discuss any topic, no matter how embarrassing it might be. A great weight, that still existed, was instantly lifted off my shoulders. This meant quite a lot to me, more than she can know.

It’s not that I am proud to have a very small penis…..I am proud that I can embrace being very small.

Panties: He said he wears them to support his smaller size?

                          

          Panties:  He said he wears them to support his smaller size?

We received a question from a wife, concerned, when she found out her husband is wearing panties.
Her first thought, “Is he gay or a crossdresser?”

First off, who cares what kind, color, or brand of underwear your husband wants to wear….its just underwear, silly.  Plain and simple.  Him wearing panties no more makes him gay or a crossdresser than it does you for wearing his boxers or his button down shirt.  It’s just underwear.  It’s not like anyone other than you are going to see them.

If you are worried someone might accidentally see the waistband of his panties or anything of the like, don’t be.  Most likely no one would think anything of it.  If someone ever did mention to you they thought he was wearing panties, and you felt the need to converse with them about it.  Just tell them “No, they are actually sexy men’s undies I bought him”.  I’m sure the conversation would just end there.  Search Amazon.com for “men’s nylon bikini underwear”.  You’ll pull up thousands of styles, colors, etc. of men’s bikini underwear that looks very similar to women’s panties.

Underwear has nothing to do with your husbands masculinity.  It’s just underwear.  Instead of worrying about it, just embrace it.  You can have fun and joke with him about it.  “Hey honey, don’t get your…..panties in a bunch”, or “You must have your panties wound too tight this morning”.  Or you can take the sexy approach, “Oooh, honey, looking sexy in those tonight”, especially if he is in a bad mood.  Any sexual comment from our wives seems to turn us from bad mood, to good mood which is just how we men are wired.  Again, it’s just underwear.

So to ultimately answer your question.  Could he be wearing them to support his smaller size?
Absolutely!

Some men prefer boxers, some briefs, some both.  Sometimes you might prefer boxers to go “free-balling”, then other days, want a little support, especially while exercising or being active.

Here is a test for the wives.  One day, take a small cloth bag and put two golf balls and a mini tube of toothpaste into the bag.  Strap or tape the bag to the front your panties and walk around doing your normal activities for the day.  You will find many times everything in the bag gets squished or just flat  get in the way.  Now go walk around the block, do the elliptical or yoga.  The bag and its contents will swing and bounce all over the place which can make things uncomfortable.  Its no different than you wearing a jog bra while exercising.

So yes, he might want bikini, brief, thong, whatever type of underwear for support.  Jock straps absolutely suck.  They tend to smash everything into your body in order to support your package.  Very uncomfortable!  Tighty-whitey” briefs suck, as they stretch out too much in the first hour of wearing them.

So now we come to men’s bikini or brief underwear designed with a pouch in the front.  Most are designed very similar to women’s panties, made of nylon/spandex or microfiber, they just have a pouch in the front for our package.  So basically panties with a pouch in front.

For less-endowed men, that pouch can be too large, losing the support.  So now, there are many women’s panties that are very soft, light and stretchy.   They are designed to be flat in the front, but can stretch to accommodate a mans smaller package, and be quite form fitting, thus providing great support.

So yes, the panties can be strictly for comfort and support.  He might wear them for a variety of reasons, wear a variety of styles or colors of them, but it boils down to
“Its just underwear, who cares”.

PS.  The panties I wore to demonstrate are “C’s” Hanes Her Way microfiber panties.  High-cut brief.  They are a very thin, light, stretchy material.  You can tell from the photos, they conform very well to my tiny package, but also stretch very well when needed.  And if your are small, you still stay in the panties while they stretch which is nice.