Goals For This Blog

For my wife and I, our goal is to help others with any advice we can.  We hope you can achieve a  better sex life through communication and/or using alternative methods.   Some may wonder how to talk to their partners about their size without hurting anyone’s ego.  Issues can arise like condoms slipping off, or how not to hurt anyone’s feelings when you want to purchase that large vibrator or dildo.

Single men are also more than welcome to ask for advice.

We are not licensed counselors or any of the such, we are just a couple who has been married over 20 years and have worked around my small penis in order to have a wild and crazy sex life.

“C” (wifey) and “R” (hubby)

4 thoughts on “Goals For This Blog”

  1. I think it's wonderful that you can embrace your size. Me and my husband have been married for 15 years and have a great marriage and sex life. I have never had an orgasm with him which is ok cause he can do many other things to me. He has mentioned over and over for about 2 yrs that he would love for me to be with guys who are larger. He also bought me a large dildo and we found I can have mind blowing orgasms with it. Now I am thinking of taking him up on his offer to be with other men. We both have talked about it and he has never been a jealous person. Did you and you wife discuss this at all? We have researched this a lot and it seems there are a lot of swinger type couples that do this. I also don't want my husband ever to think he won't be enough for me, since he is the most important man in my life and will be forever.

  2. Just my 3 cents. My partner measures on his best day 4 and half inches. He was blessed with girth. I'm thrilled with his size. Bigger men made many positions uncomfortable for me. He has enough to keep me happy and humming along.

  3. That is awesome! Yes, the girth can definitely help. I'm so glad so glad your happy. When the wife is happy, the husband is happy. ;). Thank you so much for your post!

  4. Hello and thank you for your comments and questions!
    Maybe try role playing that the dildo is another guy and talk as if he is the one providing you the great orgasms. If you have a strong marriage and are willing to try the other man scenario just keep in mind you can not undo it, once done. I believe in "whatever works" for a couple, is a good thing.

    As far as us discussing it, yes, we had the same discussion and actually have been doing this for about 10 years now. We basically call the guy, the SD, or Surrogate Dick. We view it as using a 'living dildo' to help bring her to multiple orgasms. Cheryl is able to have great orgasms with a large dildo, but can have countless numbers of big orgasms with the SD's, which is why we use one. We still view it as something to enhance our sex life, as it is all about us. So we believe, whatever works best for you, is a good thing. That type of lifestyle is not for everyone, but does work great for us.

    Also there are many articles out there about many men who are ok with this lifestyle.

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