I received the following message from a wife and reader of this blog.
“I purchased some new sex toys and the free item the company sent, was a penis extension,
that can be used over a vibrator or a mans penis, to make it thicker. I put it on my new vibrator and loved it! I have found with the added girth, I am having mind blowing orgasms. Now the downside. I mentioned this to my husband and he thought it was great. So I suggested we put it on his penis and try that also. He went from excited, to having a bruised ego. To make matters worse, his penis is too small to keep the extension on him. I have told him his penis is perfect and does make me orgasm sometimes. How can I get out of this fog I have created?”
Just let him know the vibrator feels wonderful by itself, but the added girth just increased the pleasure, but you are happy either way. Next time you are both feeling frisky, tell him he does not have to try the extension again, but if he decided he wanted to, just wink at him and say something like, “I might just have to do a little oral on you as compensation”. Sounds silly, but he might just think, “oh heck, I’ll do anything for that”.
Just reassure him his size works and that you are always willing to try new things he wants to try. Within reason of course.
As you mentioned the penis extension its too large in circumference to stay on his penis, we also had the same issue. “C” mentioned trying some of the finger sleeves which can be an extension for the smaller penis. Also, he could put on one of the finger sleeves or a couple rubber finger rings, then put the regular extension on. That could pad the extra room and allow it to stay on.
Keep me informed how it goes and thanks for the question.
By happenstance I crossed path’s with a female friend from my high school days, by researching sex self-help on various websites. After I said hello we messaged back and forth and I spoke about this blog to her. She thought my blog was a great idea as she has known a few men who also had small penis’s which would not have been a problem, except they let their small size affect their confidence in the bedroom.
She is a very open minded person sexually and believes whatever works for a couple to have a great sex life and great relationship, is the right thing. She said, “For a man to be able to openly talk about his penis being very small, is the ultimate acceptance of this fact and leads to better communication with his partner.
Most all sex therapists say the key to a great marriage and sex life is communication. “C” and I were married years before really began to communicate. As I stated in another post. Once I was able to finally tell her I realized my penis was too small for her body, she saw that it did not bother me
and we really begin to communicate for the first time in many years. Once she finally admitted that she too realized my penis was too small for her body, we both realized we can talk about anything having to do with sex and/or our relationship.
Basically for me its the old saying, “Why worry about what you can not change”. I really admire “C” for finally being able to admit to me that my penis could not meet her sexual needs which was very difficult for her to say. She did tell me she still loved me and we can just work around it just like any other issues couples face.
This was so wonderful for me. Now I completely accepted the fact that my penis was very small but that I am ok with that. And she completely accepted the fact that my penis was too small to meet her sexual needs, but she was ok with this also. Wow, what a great wife I have!
“C” explained it this way:
“It’s the reassurance for me that even though I can not sexually meet her needs due to my very small size, she stays with me for the emotional bond and our love together.”
Wow, this made me realize, she is giving up a lot for me, which is true love. So I began to think proactively and logically as to what I can do for her.