Benefits of a Cuckolding Relationship

A cuckold relationship is one where the husband allows his wife to have sex with other men and the husband only desires to have sex with his wife.  Yesterday CNN wrote an article that cuckolding can be very positive for a couple who have great communication and a great relationship already.

For my wife and I, we enjoyed sex together, though we knew my penis was too small for her as she could not feel me inside.  She was ok with this for 10 years.  Then we had the opportunity for her to experience another very well endowed man.  She learned many new things including she had the ability to have lots of multiple orgasms with a larger penis.

So what are the benefits for me, the husband?   Well I found watching her with the other male was so hot and erotic that it was the greatest turn-on.  This was not like just being a voyeur and watching a live porno.  I was being a voyeur and watching my wife’s facial expressions and body language, and listening to how vocal she was.  To see and watch her in the throws of ecstasy was the most amazing thing.

One might think, didn’t it bother you that she enjoyed his penis but not yours?  Of course not.  The reason is, it wasn’t about me and my abilities.  She can make me orgasm over and over.  Finally I found I was able to provide her with many mind blowing orgasms.  We just happen to use a Surrogate Dick, to do it.

I love her very much and this is something I can offer her.  That provides me a great benefit.  Also, after they are done, her and I are able to have great sex without the added pressure of me trying to make her orgasm vaginally.

For her benefits, she gets to experience sexual freedom.  She can enjoy mild-blowing sex with other men and know I will always be there for her.   The other men find her attractive and sexy and tell her so often.  What is more sexy for a woman than having other men desire her and telling her how much they desire her.  She can have sex with whomever and whenever the opportunity presents itself and she knows I support her 100% with that.

For us as a couple.  In order to even talk about cuckolding, we had to have good communication.  In the last 12 to 15 years we have been living this lifestyle, our communication really opened up.  We have great communication and trust in our relationship.  Someone close to us is going through tough times for her marriage and she said to me.  She just wished they had better communication.  For us, cuckolding increased our communication 1000%.

If may not be for everyone, but it has worked well for our 25 year marriage.  And for those people close to us that are aware of this, they have all said, they wish they could have the same relationship.  Its all a about love, trust, and communication.

Most Comfortable Panties

I told “C” one time, I wish they would make underwear out of the pantyhose material.  Super soft and stretchy.  Low and behold she found a lady on Etsy who hand makes them.  She has bikini and g-string styles.  They are super comfortable.  They hold the package very well, no matter how small.  They also are super stretchy to handle an erection.  These are definitely a must try.  Also “C” says they make my penis look larger for some reason.   lol.  Thank you anyway honey!  😉

I added a link to her Etsy page showing all the panties she makes.

Small Penis Teasing?

So why would a guy with a tiny penis love to be teased about how small and tiny it is?

I think its totally accepting that my penis is tiny and I’ll be the first to say so, to even joke about.  Joking and laughing is great for the soul.  I absolutely love when “C” makes “small” jokes about my penis, teases me about it.  Its just great fun to make sure we are both alive sexually I guess.

Even my sister who has seen the blog, cracked a few jokes about my size once she realized I was such a good sport about it.  Everyone who knows me, knows I don’t take life to serious and I’m always cracking jokes.  Especially about myself.

We have a couple who are our best friends.  They have seen how small I am.  Once night we were leaving a bar and the husband, he ran over and just slapped me on the ass as a joke.  I laughed and said, “well at least you didn’t grab my dick”.  His wife responded, “He would have to find it first” and we all laughed.  I thought that was awesome!

Also I told our friend that I don’t mind her mentioning my tiny penis to other people. I told her I was quite ok with it, as Im ok with the whole world knowing.  So one night she showed another couple one of the pics above, to show them how tiny I was.  The next day she told us she felt bad for doing that.  We both told her, we didn’t mind at all.  I thought that was awesome!  I told her she can show the pic to whomever she wants.  Hell, tell them my exact size. 3.8 inches erect.  I stopped rounding up.  😉  I really hope she does show the pic more often.  I actually look forward to the next time she tells us she showed the pic again!  Its not a big deal at all.  (sorry, had to throw that in).  Hell, next party bring it up, I’ll laugh and say, “hell yeah, I’m hung like a church mouse!”  Why be ashamed of it, just embrace it.  I tried to let her know, its not being mean to me.  For me its freedom, not being ashamed about it, embracing it.

Basically, our best friends know that I’m ok with the whole world knowing how tiny I am, and by them joking about it, lets me know they are not uncomfortable  about the topic with me or “C”.  I think they are awesome people for accepting me having a tiny penis, and us doing the Surrogate Dick thing.  Instead of feeling weird around us, they can crack jokes or even just talk about my size and Surrogate Dicks.  Those are what you call true friends forever.

You Let Your Wife Have Sex With Other Men?


“The Surrogate Dick”

We had been married about 10 years and I knew “C” gave all to me sexually and I realized I could not give all she needed.  Sure we used toys, and I could use my fingers and tongue…..but she had not been able to experience a great orgasm via intercourse.  Once while visiting a friend of hers in Las Vegas, she mentioned to “C” that she had a male friend who gave mind blowing orgasms.  I decided to tell her, hey, lets try and see if he can give you one.  Then maybe you will know how they feel and we can then work towards you having more.

Well, she smiled and thanked me in some very great ways.  🙂 . I sat and watched her with the other guy and she had more orgasms than we could both count.  And she learned they were so intense, that she squirts.   Boy did that kick start a higher sex drive for “C”.  Luckily “C” was finally honest with me that my penis was too small to satisfy her, but she said this in a nice way.  She reassured me that it was ok, we can just keep trying new things.  At this point I told her maybe if we just bring in another guy for her to be able to orgasm.  Basically it would be a living dildo for her.  She agreed.

We found she can easily have multiple orgasms and very intense with the other men, almost all the time.  So we found a long term friends with benefits for her and decided to call him the “Surrogate Dick”, which means he is nothing more than a living dildo to provide her orgasms.  So for the last 15 years we have typically had various long term Surrogate Dick’s for her to enjoy.

So what do I get out of this?  The more orgasms she has with the Surrogate Dick the higher her sex drive stays, and the more sex and yes, blowjobs I get.  Win-Win situation for both of us.  And yes, I love to watch her with the Surrogate Dick or SD.  Would she let me sleep with other women?  Sure, but I choose not to, as she can provide me many orgasms.

So how does she meet the SD’s?  We have found them through a couple swinger sites. She can hook up with whoever and whenever she desires.  As long as either I get to watch or she tells me all about it afterwards.  Only once has it been a spur of the moment thing so far.  We do have a current long term SD who happened to be a friend of ours.  We met him via a swinger site only to learn during our chatting, that we actually knew each other.

I love “C” a lot, and she satisfies me sexually, more than I could ask for.   So I feel grateful to be able to allow her to be satisfied sexually which for her, requires a large penis.

This arrangement may not be for everyone.  We don’t judge others, so we don’t care if others thing this is not right.  It works for us.

Below are some comparison pics of “C” and me, and then her with an SD.

Everyone is asking where “C” got her robe for the shaving post

We got tons of emails asking where “C” got her robe she is wearing in the previous post on shaving.  She purchased it from Adore Me online.

She has graciously offered to let me post a better photo of the robe, which I think most of us men will love and the wives can see what it looks like on a non-model on their website.


Shaving Down Under: Will it appear larger?

A lot of articles say that shaving your pubic hair will help make your small penis appear larger.  Well, since I usually stay shaven, I let the hair grow out a bit to see.  Well, since my penis flacid is only about 1/2 inch, you definately could not see it.  When erect I am 3.8 inches so the hair tends to cover about half.

When shaven you can now see all of my penis, so I guess it would look larger than if I had hair.  Though lucky for me ,my penis is fairly tiny to begin with, so shaved, or not shaved, does not really make a difference.  For me it does not matter, though I think “C” likes both of us shaven.   Sorry, I did not mean to include “C’s” boobs but I can not crop the photos and them still look centered.