Benefits of a Cuckolding Relationship

A cuckold relationship is one where the husband allows his wife to have sex with other men and the husband only desires to have sex with his wife.  Yesterday CNN wrote an article that cuckolding can be very positive for a couple who have great communication and a great relationship already.

For my wife and I, we enjoyed sex together, though we knew my penis was too small for her as she could not feel me inside.  She was ok with this for 10 years.  Then we had the opportunity for her to experience another very well endowed man.  She learned many new things including she had the ability to have lots of multiple orgasms with a larger penis.

So what are the benefits for me, the husband?   Well I found watching her with the other male was so hot and erotic that it was the greatest turn-on.  This was not like just being a voyeur and watching a live porno.  I was being a voyeur and watching my wife’s facial expressions and body language, and listening to how vocal she was.  To see and watch her in the throws of ecstasy was the most amazing thing.

One might think, didn’t it bother you that she enjoyed his penis but not yours?  Of course not.  The reason is, it wasn’t about me and my abilities.  She can make me orgasm over and over.  Finally I found I was able to provide her with many mind blowing orgasms.  We just happen to use a Surrogate Dick, to do it.

I love her very much and this is something I can offer her.  That provides me a great benefit.  Also, after they are done, her and I are able to have great sex without the added pressure of me trying to make her orgasm vaginally.

For her benefits, she gets to experience sexual freedom.  She can enjoy mild-blowing sex with other men and know I will always be there for her.   The other men find her attractive and sexy and tell her so often.  What is more sexy for a woman than having other men desire her and telling her how much they desire her.  She can have sex with whomever and whenever the opportunity presents itself and she knows I support her 100% with that.

For us as a couple.  In order to even talk about cuckolding, we had to have good communication.  In the last 12 to 15 years we have been living this lifestyle, our communication really opened up.  We have great communication and trust in our relationship.  Someone close to us is going through tough times for her marriage and she said to me.  She just wished they had better communication.  For us, cuckolding increased our communication 1000%.

If may not be for everyone, but it has worked well for our 25 year marriage.  And for those people close to us that are aware of this, they have all said, they wish they could have the same relationship.  Its all a about love, trust, and communication.

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“The Surrogate Dick”

We had been married about 10 years and I knew “C” gave all to me sexually and I realized I could not give all she needed.  Sure we used toys, and I could use my fingers and tongue…..but she had not been able to experience a great orgasm via intercourse.  Once while visiting a friend of hers in Las Vegas, she mentioned to “C” that she had a male friend who gave mind blowing orgasms.  I decided to tell her, hey, lets try and see if he can give you one.  Then maybe you will know how they feel and we can then work towards you having more.

Well, she smiled and thanked me in some very great ways.  🙂 . I sat and watched her with the other guy and she had more orgasms than we could both count.  And she learned they were so intense, that she squirts.   Boy did that kick start a higher sex drive for “C”.  Luckily “C” was finally honest with me that my penis was too small to satisfy her, but she said this in a nice way.  She reassured me that it was ok, we can just keep trying new things.  At this point I told her maybe if we just bring in another guy for her to be able to orgasm.  Basically it would be a living dildo for her.  She agreed.

We found she can easily have multiple orgasms and very intense with the other men, almost all the time.  So we found a long term friends with benefits for her and decided to call him the “Surrogate Dick”, which means he is nothing more than a living dildo to provide her orgasms.  So for the last 15 years we have typically had various long term Surrogate Dick’s for her to enjoy.

So what do I get out of this?  The more orgasms she has with the Surrogate Dick the higher her sex drive stays, and the more sex and yes, blowjobs I get.  Win-Win situation for both of us.  And yes, I love to watch her with the Surrogate Dick or SD.  Would she let me sleep with other women?  Sure, but I choose not to, as she can provide me many orgasms.

So how does she meet the SD’s?  We have found them through a couple swinger sites. She can hook up with whoever and whenever she desires.  As long as either I get to watch or she tells me all about it afterwards.  Only once has it been a spur of the moment thing so far.  We do have a current long term SD who happened to be a friend of ours.  We met him via a swinger site only to learn during our chatting, that we actually knew each other.

I love “C” a lot, and she satisfies me sexually, more than I could ask for.   So I feel grateful to be able to allow her to be satisfied sexually which for her, requires a large penis.

This arrangement may not be for everyone.  We don’t judge others, so we don’t care if others thing this is not right.  It works for us.

Below are some comparison pics of “C” and me, and then her with an SD.

My Husband Is Mad I Bought A Penis Extension


I received the following message from a wife and reader of this blog.

“I purchased some new sex toys and the free item the company sent, was a penis extension,
that can be used over a vibrator or a mans penis, to make it thicker.  I put it on my new vibrator and loved it!  I have found with the added girth, I am having mind blowing orgasms.  Now the downside. I mentioned this to my husband and he thought it was great.  So I suggested we put it on his penis and try that also.  He went from excited, to having a bruised ego.  To make matters worse, his penis is too small to keep the extension on him.  I have told him his penis is perfect and does make me orgasm sometimes.  How can I get out of this fog I have created?”

Just let him know the vibrator feels wonderful by itself, but the added girth just increased the pleasure, but you are happy either way.   Next time you are both feeling frisky, tell him he does not have to try the extension again, but if he decided he wanted to, just wink at him and say something like, “I might just have to do a little oral on you as compensation”.  Sounds silly, but he might just think, “oh heck, I’ll do anything for that”.

Just reassure him his size works and that you are always willing to try new things he wants to try.  Within reason of course.

As you mentioned the penis extension its too large in circumference to stay on his penis, we also had the same issue. “C” mentioned trying some of the finger sleeves which can be an extension for the smaller penis.  Also, he could put on one of the finger sleeves or a couple rubber finger rings, then put the regular extension on.  That could pad the extra room and allow it to stay on.

Keep me informed how it goes and thanks for the question.

Goals For This Blog

For my wife and I, our goal is to help others with any advice we can.  We hope you can achieve a  better sex life through communication and/or using alternative methods.   Some may wonder how to talk to their partners about their size without hurting anyone’s ego.  Issues can arise like condoms slipping off, or how not to hurt anyone’s feelings when you want to purchase that large vibrator or dildo.

Single men are also more than welcome to ask for advice.

We are not licensed counselors or any of the such, we are just a couple who has been married over 20 years and have worked around my small penis in order to have a wild and crazy sex life.

“C” (wifey) and “R” (hubby)