Penis Pumps: Facts and Fiction

IMG_7265.JPGCan Penis Pumps really enlarge your penis? Not really as far as long term, but they can help temporarily by bringing more blood flow to the penis.

Also, for those of us men who are over 40, we sometimes need the help for full erections. Viagra is wonderful for helping with this, but sometimes a pump can provide a little added help with the blood flow. I have personally found, if I use my pump for about 5 or 10 minutes a day or even every other day, it just helps to get a faster and stronger erection when it is needed.

So now if your penis is extra small as mine is, the reality is most pumps are actually too large and won’t get a good seal around your skin and/or start pulling your balls into the pump. Yes, Ouch!

“C” has probably purchased 7 or 8 Penis Pumps from various adult toy stores and brought them home, only to find out they are too large in circumference. The length does not matter so much, although she finally found one that was only about 6 inches in length, and had changeable rubber seals on the end. Luckily, she just told the saleswoman that my penis was small, about the size and girth of her finger, and she was having difficulty finding a pump to fit my size.

For me personally, the smallest seal is still a bit too large for me.  “C” suggested I put a rubber cock ring on first, to help with the seal. Perfect! This works great! Now you may think, where do I find a cock ring that will actually stay on my smaller size. There are rubber finger rings designed to stimulate women. We use those for cock rings.

Condom Size: Finding Smaller Can Be Difficult

For many of us lesser endowed men, condoms can be a real headache.
When we first were married, condoms were all standard size.  We kept having the issue with the condom coming off inside her.  What a pain!  We resorted to using rubber bands to help keep the condoms on.  This worked ok, though sometimes the rubber band could chafe “C”.

A few years later, they came out with Snugger Fit condoms.  Finally condoms for the smaller penis.  Unfortunately these were still too large for me, and they still came off during sex.  Luckily we decided to not use condoms when we were trying to have kids.

A couple years ago I saw a company in the UK, that started making condoms for various sizes, including smaller ones.  I decided to order one to see how they fit, more out of curiosity.  The smallest size was 47mm , smaller than the Snugger Fit condoms, but still would slip off of me.  Also, they are not sold in the US, but were available via eBay.  I decided to search for smaller and finally found that in various areas of Europe and Asia, there were smaller condoms available.  I purchased the Personage Ultra-small brand located in bottom photo.  They are 45mm and I can say I finally found one that would stay on.  After all these years its sad that the smaller condoms are still not available in the US.

He couldn’t really be that small?

Ok, so my wife said I needed to add a couple photos to the blog to show my size in order to show I can relate to all the topics and questions.  It is not for exhibitionist purposes as this blog is for educational purposes.

My erect size is 3.8 inches.

Here is one with the toilet paper roll test, and the other with a mini liquor bottle.



Goals For This Blog

For my wife and I, our goal is to help others with any advice we can.  We hope you can achieve a  better sex life through communication and/or using alternative methods.   Some may wonder how to talk to their partners about their size without hurting anyone’s ego.  Issues can arise like condoms slipping off, or how not to hurt anyone’s feelings when you want to purchase that large vibrator or dildo.

Single men are also more than welcome to ask for advice.

We are not licensed counselors or any of the such, we are just a couple who has been married over 20 years and have worked around my small penis in order to have a wild and crazy sex life.

“C” (wifey) and “R” (hubby)

Wow, This Guy Admits To Having A Very Small Penis!

So as it says in my profile information, I’m a 40-something married white Male with a penis less than 4 inches erect.  3.8 inches to be exact.  As far as girth, I’m also very thin.   If doing the toilet paper roll test, there is plenty of room to spare with my penis inside it, and no, it does not come out the other end.   Actually a toilet paper roll is 4.25 inches long.

I know this sounds crazy, but yes it’s true.

So why would a guy admit this to everyone?   Well, luckily I have always had a lot of self-confidence and instead of letting it become a complex, I embraced it.  Maybe because I am an Engineer, I tend to research everything and look for a solution.

My wife and I always had a good sex life though she never had a vaginal orgasm.  That is until she came across a large vibrator.  That changed everything.  She tried to make it seem as though it was no big deal so as to not hurt my feelings.  It did not.  I was just as excited that she could finally orgasm!
Instead of having a complex, I just admitted to her that I knew my penis was small.  Of course, she said the typical “no it’s just right” speech.  I just said, that it was ok, it didn’t bother me at all.  Then she admitted that possibly her body just required larger, thus the large vibrator.

Now our world changed!  Our sex life improved for the better and it actually was a major relief for me when she admitted I was too small for her.   I had always stressed a lot about not being able to provide her the pleasure that I wanted to.  I always had performance anxiety.  That all ended that day.

Does that mean we do not have intercourse?  Of course not.  We now just have many creative avenues with our sex life.  And I no longer have to stress out about trying to make her orgasm vaginally as we know it is not going to happen, but if does, great!  So instead I became an expert in using toys, oral, and fingers to bring her to multiple orgasms.

Basically, sex should not be stressful, but relaxing and pleasurable.  We both enjoy it now, by being creative and through alternative means.